The people who preach permanent positivity are the most fragile entities you'll ever meet.
Blatant optimism is cowardice. It is the refusal to look at reality clearly because reality, looked at clearly, is frightening. The person who insists everything is going to be fine is terrified of examining the evidence. Their peace requires a specific relationship with selective attention; noticing what confirms the hopeful story and disregarding what complicates it. Their stability depends on not seeing too clearly.
This is not strength. This is a glass structure that looks beautiful until the pressure arrives. And pressure always arrives. And the glass always shatters. Because it was not built to hold weight. It was built to avoid it.
I don't care. My philosophy is to never take defeatism too seriously. I will always begin again and again no matter what. I might sound miserable most of the time, but at my core I’m really just a very hopeful person.
The mouth can scream that the struggle is lost, the ego can weep, and the mind can produce dark poetry about the pointlessness of it all, but if I just refuse to stop building, the defeatism is completely irrelevant. The true metric of hope is not a sunny disposition; it is the stubborn refusal to stay dead.
The mfs who actually survive the meat grinder of existence are rarely whistling while they work. They are down in the mud, swearing at the sky, fully aware of how rigged the game is, how heavy the stone is, and how small their chances are.
The optimist continues when they believe things will work out. The dark person continues regardless.
This is because action and emotion do not answer to the same authority. One part of you is allowed to despair. Another part is responsible for carrying the weight anyway. Our consciousness operates on two distinct levels: the crying animal at the surface, and the obsidian pillar at the foundation.
The Stoics understood this dualism perfectly. Sisyphus was condemned to push a boulder up a mountain for eternity. When Sisyphus rolls the boulder up the mountain for the ten-thousandth time, he does not need to look at the rock with a smile. It doesn't matter whether he is raging or smiling, cursing the gods or at peace with them, finding the task meaningful or finding it pointless. What matters is that when his weight is leaned into the stone, the stone moves up.
Camus writes about him: one must imagine Sisyphus happy.
People read this as: Sisyphus has found joy in the absurdity. He has made peace with the rock. He has achieved some kind of acceptance that allows him to feel good about his punishment.
Another way of reading Camus is that you can hate the boulder. You can know with complete certainty that it will roll back down. You can feel, in the moment of watching it descend, a despair so complete that it eliminates every previous version of despair you thought you understood. But still decide to lean in and move it again anyway.
Optimism fails because it depends on emotion. Endurance depends on the behavior instead.
Hope is not the belief that things will work out. It is not the sense that the future will be better. Hope is a behavior. The person who sounds defeated and continues anyway is operating from many layers below optimism. The unglamorous, unwitnessed, complete refusal to let the latest version of difficult be the final word.
The mind has the right to be honest about what it sees. The dark assessment is often the accurate assessment. The road is difficult. The odds are frequently bad. The outcomes are not guaranteed to be good. Your job, despite the forecast, is to begin. And if it fails, let the mind say what it needs to say about that. And then begin again.
Whatever the situation, the odds, the history, the forecast, it does not get to be the last word. Stand up in the middle of the wreckage, clear the debris from your path, and take the single, heavy step that proves you are too stubborn to die.
— Marcus | Stern Stoic
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